The Lost Art of Connecting

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Billions of people around the world are now in touch through social media, but are we really truly connected with one another? In a recent hot yoga class where the temperature was tipping one hundred degrees, the instructor asked us to hold hands with the people on either side of us to help us with a balance pose.  Sweat was pouring down from my head and my entire body, and it wasn’t exactly a moment I wanted to share with a total stranger.

At first it was a bit uncomfortable as I clasped hands with a woman next to me.  Since I was next to a wall, there was no one to hold me on my right, which meant I had to do much of the balance work for myself and the woman on my left, and our whole row.  If one person wavered slightly, the rest of us would feel it too. We were like dominos waiting to fall.

Although we held the poses for only moments, they seemed like hours, especially when you’re holding the sweaty hand of a stranger.  If I wobbled, so did she, and I didn’t want to let her down. I didn’t even know her name or any of the struggles that she might have endured. What was her story? Did she have any illnesses, financial loss, or tragedies in her life? I didn’t know, but for those fleeting moments, I tried to be her rock.

It’s amazing that we think that we are connected with so many people in our lives when we really aren’t. When was the last time you truly listened to someone …looked them in the eyes and heard them? You didn’t interject your opinion without being asked and you listened?

After the class, I reached out to a few friends I had been out of touch with.  They were busy but appreciated hearing from me.  Although it’s nice to have “likes” on Facebook, nothing beats the lost art of really connecting with friends and family, or even total strangers in a sweaty yoga class.

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  1. jill May 9, 2016 at 10:23 am - Reply

    I LOVE this Shemane…I can’t help but think that was a Green Monkey class (Debi or Kiersten)?

    I love your perspective, sharing and openness…you are an inspiration, my friend…and yes, we are the most “connected” cohort in history, yet the most lonely!

    • Shemane Nugent May 11, 2016 at 4:19 am - Reply

      Yes! It was a Green Monkey class! It was a male instructor. New to me.


  2. Mark Scott May 12, 2016 at 10:02 pm - Reply

    Love your site and a 40 year fan of your husband. I posted some great photos I took of Uncle Ted on Instagram today under love mountainliving. Yes, we live in the mountains of Blue Ridge, GA. I think you would love the peace and beauty here as well as the nature. And so would Ted, especially the Black Bears we see in our yard frequently.
    Just wanted to drop you a line to let you know what an inspiration you are and what a Nuge fan I am. Keep up the amazing work and keep on rockin’.

    With admiration,
    Mark Scott

    • Shemane Nugent May 15, 2016 at 10:38 pm - Reply

      Thank you very much Mark! I appreciate the kind words.

    • Shemane Nugent May 23, 2016 at 7:21 pm - Reply

      Hey! Thanks Mark! I’m glad you like this website. Hope you visit often!
      I love the mountains in GA!! God’s country!

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